Why Not?

I'm having a really hard time understanding the reasons behind the anti-gay marriage agenda. Honestly, I don't get what the message is, or the point of the message, or the goal they're hoping to attain. It's making me feel kind of dumb, or maybe dumbfounded, because I'm really at a loss here. I always try to get a good understanding of the other sides beliefs & arguments because 1: I want to be sure I'm on the right side (I don't want to blindly oppose or believe in anything) & 2: I want to be able to properly refute them. Ignorance is not our friend. I can usually piece together some sort of argument from the right wing's crazy, selfish rants, but this time...

It's like that whole "Tea Party" thing. What the fuck was that all about?

There is obviously a big piece of something that I'm missing here. I get the whole religious thing, kinda. I mean it's fucking retarded, but at least I know where their fucking retarded belief is coming from. But, I have really hard time believing that all the people that oppose gay marriage and voted in favor of Prop 8 are hard core fundamentalist Christians. Are there any arguments against gay marriage that don't have a religious agenda? I mean what the fuck does "Protect Marriage" really mean? If that's the case shouldn't we ban divorce? I know all these arguments have already been made & all the hypocrisies have been pointed out so I don't feel like I need to go there. I'm just trying to wrap my brain around this. Why do they care what people do with their personal lives? How does it affect them? What is the driving force behind all this impassioned hate? I think most of these people just think gay sex is icky. It makes them uncomfortable therefore it should disappear.

I don't' see how this is even an issue that can be voted on, it's basic civil rights. It seems highly unconstitutional to be able to amend the constitution to discriminate against & restrict the rights of a specific group of people. I think that's why I'm having a really hard time with this. I don't like to think that people are this horrible. I'm disgusted & appalled and very confused at how people can hate each other & want to hurt one another over something as trivial as sexual orientation. Maybe my brain is missing a piece because....

I'm sorry I know I'm kind of rambling & just repeating myself but I just don't get it. Everyone has made the comparisons to racial discrimination which is a good example because it's exactly the same, everyone would be horrified if the government stopped an interracial couple from marrying (hopefully). I think in about 50 years, when homosexuality is considered perfectly normal and fully accepted & embraced by society (hopefully), we'll all look back on this as an embarrassing and prejudice time period in American history. I'm having difficulty articulating myself, because it's shocking to me that people would oppose other's happiness and freedom. I'm on the verge of tears right now. This is a hard one to swallow.

It's not like I'm some big romantic who thinks everyone should fall in love and get married and have a white picket fence and live happily ever after or some shit like that. I personally don't really believe in marriage in general. I don't want to get married. I see marriage as archaic and unnecessary at best, & at worst I see it as sexist, religious propaganda where women are no more then sex/domestic slaves in a legal binding contract.(I'll marry your daughter & take her off your hands if you throw in that mule. But if she doesn't produce me a son I'll kill the bitch.) It's not romantic to me. To me it seems to be all about appeasing your god, your parents, & your government. I'm not saying I'll never get married, maybe my mind will change, maybe 10 years from now I'll desperately want it. But for now that's just how I feel. I'm way too young, I haven't even established myself & my own life yet. It's my choice to not get married just like if I change my mind it'll be my choice to file a joint tax return. & if I meet a pretty girl who steals my heart away from Tim it should be my choice to marry her.

In summary - You and your prejudices can go fuck each other in the ass